In the first years of my career I made a big mistake. The problem was that I did not notice that it was costing me the speed of my career.
Only years later, in my next career I got it. Although changing it was not easy. It took me a lot of work, money and time to get there.
I know that I am not alone here. I am not the only one who has made that mistake.
In fact I have seen A LOT of women, business owners, starters, relaunchers and top career executives make the same mistake. And also in my trainings I see ‘us women’ make that mistake over and over again! And it makes me shiver to my spine!
Why? Because I know what it is costing them in the long run (I am talking about health, career, reputation, relationship, finance) and if they only are willing to make a few little changes they will turn it all around.
WHAT WAS I DOING WRONG?
In the earliest years of my first career (and the first years of my second career as a trainer) I looked up to the experienced and successful folks. I was working long hours, trying to be the best in my job only to feel totally drained at the end of the day.
And that was because I was really passionate about what I was trying to accomplish but I was really vague and stubborn to my superiors as to what the F.. I wanted in my career.
It was a big problem. So big that I did not see it for myself.
Even today when I hit an insecure day, I find myself emulating my teachers and in the meantime figuring what I want to share with you.
But when the people around you do not understand what you want in your career (or life for that matter) they cannot support you. They will not promote you either.
And the #1 biggest mistake is this:
YOU KIND A THINK IT’S OK, YOU ARE NOT WORTH MORE THAN THIS
And this is, dear lovely lady, where we miss out on ourselves and the world misses out of us.
You are worth what you long for.
And you are worth it to go for it.
And you are worth good training and the tools to make it happen.
YOU ARE DOING THIS TOO
Let me put it to the test with you:
When I ask you: “what do you want as a next move?” what comes to mind?
Usually a lot of ‘stuff’ a lot of ‘running away froms’ and ‘no more superior demon X’ right?
And that doupt, that mist, that SELF DOUPT is in your posture, in your emails, in your promotion talks.
AND IT IS DEVASTATING
And the worst part of it is: you are beating yourself up about it.
There are only 2 things you need to stop doing and one thing you need to do.
- STOP SUMMING UP THE THINGS YOU DON’T WANT ANYMORE
- STOP BEING ALL POLITICALLY CORRECT AND POLITELY/CHARMINGLY WAITING
YOU ARE TO GOOD TO CONTINUE BEATING YOURSELF UP FOR NOT BEING PERFECT
> START GETTING CLEAR ON WHO YOU ARE AND WHAT YOU DO WANT AS A NEXT STEP AND FIND THE RIGHT WAY TO MAKE IT HAPPEN WITH YOUR PROMOTORS, THE PEOPLE WHO BELIEVE IN YOU AND CAN HELP YOU ON THE WAY.
HOW DO YOU TURN THIS AROUND?
First thing is to get the right tools. You can assess what tools you have already and which you need now (and for the next step).
I have made a wonderful checklist for that. You can download my Ideal Leadership Toolkit Checklist in English here and in Dutch here.
Also I have something that you will need to turn the process of self doubt, overworking and getting stuck in the process.
I have a free course The 4 Keys to your next promotion.
NOW I WANT TO KNOW
I want to ask you something! Now that you see the massive mistake that many (especially women) make…
Do you see yourself making it, too?
Are you talks with your superior for your personal benefit or for your career?
And in your emails and behavior, are you showing self doubt or self esteem?
Not sure? Put your question below, and I’ll give you some free coaching. (I’d love to help!)